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I am always looking for something fun to do with my love, be it a foot massage, deep conversation about what pleasures us, or a very erotic massage. But at those special times when I want to get a slow burn going, or when I want to break out of the routine, I just love to slip into some of my sexy lingerie.

I know he loves me in just my birthday suit; however, including some eye candy in the event adds some mystery and helps to prevent relationship boredom. Plus, because lingerie has that slinky characteristic, it feels as clingy and sensual on my skin as it does under his fingertips, so it is something we both enjoy.

Let’s be honest. We all long for a little variety, a little change of pace, and it’s no different in the bedroom. With our busy lives we go along and do what comes easiest, since it is familiar, and we know the results will at least be good. Breaking out of that routine though will often turn up the heat and get you looking at each other in totally new ways. Lingerie is a very sexy tool that you can easily add to your love-making tool kit to help you avoid relationship boredom and break out of those routines you have slipped into.

According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, in the National Vital Statistics Report, 7.5 percent of the American population got married in 2005. During the same year 3.6 percent of Americans got divorced. That means that for about every two marriages there was one divorce, or a 48 percent divorce rate.

Most people enter into marriage with the expectation the marriage will last until death. The facts however show that isn’t the case. For almost half of the population marriage only lasts until divorce.

Of course no one tracks the beginnings and endings of relationships where the people never marry. The number of households with one person increased 8 percent from 1970-2005. Today, more than a quarter of American households consist of one person. If you add the divorced people from just one year to that number there could be nearly 30 percent of the U.S. population looking for Mr. or Ms. Right.

In Choosing A Relationship With Your Eyes Wide Open

You will discover:

- Why Modern Models for Relationships Don’t work

- The Good News About Being Single

- What Online Dating Services Don’t Tell You

- Why What You Know Keeps Getting You More of What You Have

- The Top 4 Reasons We Choose Our Mate & The Cost

- How The Models for Relationships Our Parents & Society Gave Us

Effect Our Chooses.

This is information for anyone interested in having a successful relationship.

In Choosing A Relationship With Your Eyes Wide Open

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Q. Why is it that no man can accept my vibrator?

There are many reasons why men may not accept your vibrator, but perhaps the biggest one can be summed up in one word – competition. They may feel they can’t compete with a vibrator, and men don’t like to play games they can’t win. Remember too that a vibrator can run a long time, as long as there is power, but most men have operating limits.

I once heard of a woman who needed to have a car buffer as her vibrator so she could get off. How did she get to that point? You have to wonder if she is so desensitized that she can’t even feel a simple human touch. And then, where will it end? How much bigger, or more powerful will the vibrating tools need to become so that she can feel satisfied?

People often get lost in sex tools like vibrators because they can take control of their own pleasure. For women, after a string of unskilled lovers they may get to the point where a man is not appreciated. For many people, solitary sex is all they feel they have time for, or that they are the only ones who can really please themselves. Some women never learned to ask for what they want in bed. Still others don’t want to take the time to train their man to please them. There is nothing wrong with any of that.

But when the sexual experience becomes empty and addictive, many women, and men, decide it’s time to involve another person. If you are involving a man and asking why he doesn’t accept your vibrator, then perhaps you really don’t want a man to be involved in your sex life. If you really do want a man involved with you in bed then maybe a better question would be, “How can I learn to find as much pleasure having sex with a man, as I find when I use a vibrator?”

To do that you will need to place your emphasis on the sensuality between two people on their way to orgasm, rather than emphasizing the solitary activity of simply reaching an orgasm. When you focus on sensuality, a simple touch can make you feel much more pleasure that a vibrator can. A really skilled lover can touch his woman on her shoulder and cause her to have orgasmic contractions. While some may love the feeling of a vibrator, it can’t kiss you, and spoon with you, and cuddle with you. It can’t provide any of the qualities relationships do.

Whenever you are ready to try to experience how much pleasure you really can have with a man you might consider checking out the videos “For His Eyes Only,” and “For Her Eyes Only.” They will teach you how to enjoy your partner so much that you will say, “Screw my vibrator!”

A friend of mine – a really wild young thing – recently told me about an experience she once had with a couple. She joined them in a night of drinking, which later moved to their house, then to their bedroom. For a night, the three of them enjoyed each other. However, afterwards – and to her surprise – they never speak again, though they still had mutual friends.

I bring this story up because a lot of people have begun asking me about threesomes lately, and I think my friend’s experience is only a glimpse into what occurs when a third person becomes part of something we usually share with only one partner.

If you do the math, you will discover that bringing a third person into an otherwise committed sexual relationship means that one person ends up being left out. The most common threesome seems to involve a couple plus another woman – which means either the guy will be left alone or his partner will. Either way, the result is jealousy and loneliness will loom just outside the bedroom. Perhaps the invited girl will feel left out, causing her to feel cheapened and unnecessary, existing only as a momentary plaything, her previous friendship with the luckier couple greatly and irreversibly devalued.

We prefer to focus on the physical and even mental aspects of intercourse, but people tend to forget that sex means sharing an intimate part of yourself with another human being.
I recently did an interview on Playboy’s satellite radio channel where a man called in and said he had invited another man to join him and his wife. After sex, his wife cleaned up, came back to the bed, and snuggled up – to the new guy, not him. Naturally, the husband instantly became upset, yet he shouldn’t have been surprised at all. The woman in this particular situation had just shared something with the new man – not with her husband – so cuddling afterwards with the other man was only a natural expression of the experience for her.
When we have sex, we become, to some degree, emotionally attached to the other person. But what happens when that doesn’t work out? The relationship between the couple and between the other person will be damaged or destroyed – I can guarantee that.
People usually enter threesomes looking for intensity and/or new experiences. Our partner may not be giving us something we need sexually, and we think a new person can solve that. If the woman is unfulfilled, most likely the man is unable or has forgotten how to please her orally or manually, and the two of them should communicate. If the man is unhappy, the most common cause is a lack of attraction, in which case he should re-examine why he’s in that relationship. Communication will be the solution.

If you feel satisfied and fulfilled in your relationship to your partner, then you won’t want to share something that you value with anyone else. When we look elsewhere for the intensity we don’t have at home, we end up hurting the relationships that matter. After experiencing a threesome, we’ve intimately shared ourselves with other people, but the next day we have to redraw lines in the changed relationships that will cause everyone involved to suffer.

It takes time to truly know someone intimately – in fact, it takes a lifetime. But a threesome is a Pandora’s box of problems that suffocates any hope for intimacy. If you are in a monogamous relationship with someone you truly care about and want to know more intimately, why would you let someone else in? Instead of copping out by getting into a threesome; why not spend your time making your relationship better?

Don’t skim the surface of intimacy with your lover, dive in and get to know them better – one on one!

Question: How do I tell my girlfriend I have another girl pregnant?

Answer: Delivering bad news is one of the most difficult things we have to do, especially if we are compassionate people who care about others’ feelings. There are some guidelines you can follow. First pick your place and time wisely. For this kind of news you will want a time when both of you are not distracted, or already stressed out. The place should be one that is reasonably comfortable for both of you. In this case you might consider delivering the news at her place so she will have familiar comforts around her (including that lamp you gave her so she can throw it at you). I’m being funny here. I don’t advocate violence.

Tell her how she is probably going to feel after you deliver your message. Consider saying something like, “After I tell you this you probably won’t want to ever see me again.” You should be resigned to this outcome so you don’t appear to be giving her this kind of news and expecting her to forgive you. This isn’t the time to ask for forgiveness or to appear to be keeping the door open for the relationship.

Unfortunately in this case you most likely aren’t going to be able to use the last technique which is to offer a remedy. This isn’t fixable, except maybe with time and distance.

When I get questions like these I struggle with answering them. First, my focus is on helping people to create better relationships, but in this case we have three adults who have no idea what they are creating. Can anyone explain to me, beyond the obvious, how it is that a grown man and woman can manage to conceive a child by mistake? What was she thinking? Was this a childish attempt to trap the man? And from what I understand, the other woman elected to stay in the relationship knowing full well the guy was seeing someone else at the same time. Do the three of you wake up everyday and think about ways to hurt yourselves, and others?

It’s really time for all of you to start taking some personal responsibility and behave like adults. Taking that responsibility also means being totally honest with others in your world. There are those who like to have many partners, but the only way that can remotely be appropriate is if every one of those partners knows the score and that is the kind of relationship they want. For those of you who want to be in a committed relationship you have to take the responsibility to make that abundantly clear to whoever is in your life. Before you start jumping into the sack you should trust the other person. If you don’t trust them, say so, and suggest a non-sexual relationship until the trust is there.

Q – Sex Question – I seem to have the greatest orgasms from watching porn for about five minutes than I have when I am intimate with my hubby. I think it’s the explicit visual that really gets me off. What should I do?

A – Why do you want to do anything? Are you trying to make yourself wrong? What you are enjoying is perhaps the intense feeling you are getting from doing something you may consider to be taboo. As humans we love to “get high” off the intense feelings that we get from sexual encounters. We want more of them, and we want them to continue. Still, it is great that you want to focus more attention on your husband. The techniques that we teach in my videos “How to Make Sex More Fun,” “For His Eyes,” and “For Her Eyes” teach you how to bring the visual intensity you are getting from porn right into your sexual relationship with your husband. We show you how to do this with him practicing on you, and you practicing on him. The best news is that you never master the techniques; you just get better and better.

Q – Irritated Husband – When is enough, enough? I just returned from a 12-month tour in Korea. My wife has had sex with me maybe three times within the 60 days I’ve been home. Every conversation turns into an argument. She demands me to treat her like a queen (lotion her feet every night, brush her hair), yet she won’t give me any of the respect a man should have in his own house. I’m constantly apologizing for things that I haven’t done, because I would rather be happy than right. She won’t apologize for any of her childish actions, no matter how much she knows it hurts me. I’ve been her “jack ass, dumb ass,” and she even gets to the point where she tells me she hates me. I know she does it because she’s mad, but that’s still not cool. Whenever she does decide we’re going to have sex, she acts as if this is a favor to me, and not something we both will enjoy. We have two beautiful children and I’m starting to feel that this is the only reason I am still with her. I don’t know how much longer I can take this. Tell me something.

A. – Enough is enough when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. It sounds like she doesn’t value the relationship. Of course, I’m only hearing your side of the story. Usually though, people will take advantage of whatever we allow them to get away with. If you allow this to continue, it will continue until someone changes the cycle. Remember too, you were away for a long time. She learned to live without you so there is a certain amount of relationship rebuilding that has to take place. It seems like the two of you should start with rebuilding respect. Every time she is disrespectful of you, and you allow her to get away with it, she looses even more respect for you. You may think it’s strange because as a male you may believe in calling a spade a spade, however for women it is a test to see how strong you are. If you can’t handle her crap, how are you going to protect her from the rest of the world? You can regain respect by refusing to tolerate it. Remember though, physical and emotional abuse is NOT the way to gain her respect. Instead, you simply need to be firm about what you will not put up with, and communicate that to her when she steps over the line. As far as the sex goes the two of you need to take care of the respect issues before you can begin to make sex fun for both of you again. You might also consider, if this was happening to one of your two kids what advice would you give them?

Q – Motivating Your Spouse – I’ve been with my spouse for eight years. How do I motivate him to want more out of our relationship (more financially, mentally, and emotionally)?

A – By being motivated ourselves, and setting the example of what it is we want we can often increase others’ motivations in the same directions. Often times though, we have expectations of how someone should act or behave because we would act or behave in those ways. This can be frustrating to both of you. Imagine what it’s like when someone wants you to be different than you are. Is he still the person you met? If he is then you may be asking for more than he can deliver. If he isn’t the same person you met then just how has he become different, and more importantly, why? Ultimately though, in either case, open and honest communication is what is required. If he doesn’t value what you value then the two of you might need to learn how to compromise in order to keep your relationship a priority. If on the other hand you discover he shares the same values then it’s a matter of mapping out a plan that helps the two of you get your lives where you want them to be. Remember, you can’t change someone. It’s up to them to change themselves.

1. Topic: Premature Ejaculation

Question: I have been dating a guy for over two years. Throughout this time, he always comes too quickly. I want to know what we need to do to slow him down, because no matter if there is foreplay, or no foreplay, once we start having sex, he is going to come within minutes. So in the end I get nothing out of sex with him unless we have oral sex first. So please help us.

Answer:

Please understand that where they are is good, and know it can get better than that. What one person sees as a problem another person might see as a good thing because there are some women who want their man to hurry up. In this case your man simply has an untrained nervous system. The best thing you can do is have some fun with him and both of you will benefit. With the video “For Her Eyes Only” you can learn how to train him to last longer. You will be able to control when he ejaculates. You may say that you’ve tried everything however what I show you are step by step how to master this technique.

2. Topic: Painful Sex at 16

Question: Okay, like I know I’m not supposed to be having sex at 16, but I’ve been with this guy for like almost three years and everything’s going great in our relationship. The first time we tried having sex it really hurt me. He said I was so tight because it was my first time, but due to the pain I just told him to stop. Recently we tried again and the same thing happened. Is it because I’m so tight? He is thick and he was saying that it wouldn’t fit. So I’m wondering how many more times do I have to try until it breaks? Or if there is something wrong with me. I just want the whole virginity thing to go away because the pain isn’t working for me.

Answer:

I appreciate the fact that you reached out to me for an answer. I am saddened that there is no one in your life that you can have this conversation with. Parents should take the time to discuss sex with their kids long before they start trying to have it.  Personally I feel you are too young to be having sex, so I’m sorry, I can’t answer this question.  Please find an adult, someone you trust and respect to have this conversation.

3. Topic: Increase Penis Size 1 – 3 inches

Question: When you were on the Rickey Smiley Morning Show. Did I hear you say that you can make your erection longer by one to two inches by stimulation through the anal area? If this is so please explain

Answer:

Yes, I talked about one of the techniques that are in the video “For Her Eyes Only”.  With this technique we demonstrate how to stimulate the area between the anus and the scrotum, the perineum, to the degree that it causes the penis to extend 1-3 inches longer then normal.

4.  Topic: Men and Ejaculations

Question: My husband has started to ejaculate himself about twice every morning while holding something of mine or watching a sex video. He has trouble ejaculating when we are having sex unless he does it manually himself. What can I do to get him back on track so that he ejaculates while we have sex together? I like the old way we used to do it. I could always tell when he was going to come. Now we can go on and on and he can’t do it any more. He says it does not bother him, but I know it does. We have even tried Viagra to help.  Please help us. Has he done this too much and now he can’t do it without doing it that way? We have been married 30 years in November 2009 and our sex life is better now than in the past. Do you have any oral sex tips that will help this?  Thank you!

Answer:

It sounds like both you and your husband have a very healthy appetite for sex.  Sex is not just physical, it’s mental as well. Whatever the fantasy that turns both of you on can be used to get you aroused and even to have orgasms. Find out what it is that turns your husband on.  What you can do is create new fantasies for your husband. I suggest taking your husband on a sensual and romantic date where you are totally at cause and he is totally at the affect, meaning he doesn’t have to do anything.    What you do on the date is up to you depending on his fantasy, have some fun.  See how aroused you can get him.  By taking matters into your own hands you will give him something else to be excited about.  The main focus of the date is to get information and to put this information to work.  See “For Her Eyes Only”

5. Topic: Orgasm

Question: When a woman has an orgasm what exactly should she feel? How do you make it last?

Answer:

An orgasm is a series of continuous contractions (pleasurable feeling throughout your body and mainly in the genital area) starting with the first contraction and continuing until you are no longer feeling these pleasurable sensations. By learning and understanding your body you can not only have them last longer, however you can intensify them as well.  In my video “For His Eyes Only” I show you how to intensify each of these contracts so that they feel similar to the big one.  When most people think of an orgasm they think of it from a male perspective, which is harder, harder, faster, faster follower by the ejaculation at the end.  This is not an orgasm and if it were most women wouldn’t have one.

See “The One Hour Orgasm”

6. Topic: Sex after child birth

Question: My wife and I had a son 8 months ago and she’s not felling sexually active with me. What am I doing wrong before I lose her

Answer:

It’s hard to understand what a woman goes through when giving birth because you have never been through it.  During a woman’s pregnancy the baby alters a woman emotional and physical state and takes a major of her nutrients for itself. Your son took over his wife body for 10 months and now she has to get back adjusted to her own body.  Her clothes don’t fit right and her body sure doesn’t look like it did.  Chances are she is also feeling very unattractive.  My suggestion is to do things that are non sexual to make her happy and continue to tell her how much you love her and how beautiful he is.  Once you have done these things that here are steps to bring arousal back to the front of her mind. See: “Bring Arousal to the Front of Her Mind”

7. Topic: Sweets & Yeast Infections

Question: If candy is inserted in the vaginal will it cause a yeast infection?

Answer:

Good for you!  It’s great you want to spice up your love life and add a little flavor!  However, I wouldn’t put anything down there that isn’t meant to be down there.  If you want to add flavor why not try flavored lubricants.  This way you can heighten the arousal and add flavor. See I’m Flavored & Natural Lubricants

However I prefer natural lubricates over flavored because some flavored lubricates can be sticky and not provide proper lubrication.

8.  Topic: Orgasm

Question: I am a 31 year old woman who has never achieved an orgasm. What is wrong with me?

Answer:

There is nothing wrong with you and the good news is that you have something wonderful to look forward to.  Only 1 out of 3 women can have orgasms through intercourse.  The others need manual stimulation, oral stimulation or they just aren’t having them at all.  Our views about sex can dramatically impact our sex life.  Because of our views on sex, for some women they don’t take the time to learn what pleases them.  We tend to want to leave it all to our partner.  However, it is our responsibility to ourselves to make sure we are sexually fur filled. See answer # 5.

9. Topic: Cheating

Question: My husband cheated on me. I asked him why and he told me it had nothing to do with me. I don’t understand, I said are you happy with me? He said yes very happy. If he is so happy then why did cheat?

Answer:

When a couple is in a relationship and one of them has an affair it can be the hardest thing to get over.  When you have a relationship and the two do not cheat on each other and one steps out usually both people are at fault. The reason I said this is that the other person couldn’t communicate their wants and needs to their partner in a way to have them want to give it to them and the other person did have enough attention on their partner to know what they were starving for.  Now I am not talking about a man who cheats and cheats all the time.  I am talking about the people who want to be faithful to their mate.  Now I know what they did was wrong and I am not condoning this.  We weren’t taught growing up what to do after the happily ever after and unless we take personal action to learn or we had great role models we just don’t have a clue.  This is why I think the information I offer is so important, I teach you how to communicate effectively and have the most fun possible in a relationships.

Here are my “5 Tips to Affair Proof Your Relationship”

1.         You keep your appecence up

A lot of couples feel that once they are married they don’t have to continue to do the things that attracted their mate in the beginning

2.         You keep both of your best interest in mind.

It’s important to remember that you are on the same team.  You shouldn’t complain to anyone else about how terrible your partner is, after all you chose him.  Remember only to discuss your problem with someone who you both respect and who you feel can make a difference for example for pastor or a marriage counselor.

3.         You make your relationship a priority

This one of the main reason couples stray because they are not getting the attention and admiration from their mate.  We usually have the excuse we don’t have time.  Well if you don’t make your relationship a priority someone else will.

4.         You don’t do things to intentionally hold each other back.

It important in a relationship to have common goals and to know what these goals are.  When one person feels unappreciated they tend to sabotage what you both are trying to achieve.

5.         You continue to try new and different thing to improve your sex life. In my videos I teach couple how to have the most fun possible and how to make it last for a long as they would like to.  Any improvement is good.

10.  Topic: Little Sex/ No Sex in Marriage

Question: My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. We dated for 2 yrs before marriage. During our courtship, we had a very health sex life. However, of late my wife does not want to have sex at all. Most of the time we have to quarrel over it. Most of the time she just does it as a duty without showing any affection. This makes me feel like I am having sex with a prostitute. We have tried to talk about it back she is very uncommunicative. She does not want to talk about it. She instead blames me for being too over sexed. This has led me to stray a little bit to satisfy my ego. I have reached a point where I think the best thing is to end the marriage. I am 41 and she is 36 and we have a 4yr daughter.

Answer:

For you sex is a very important part of your life.  You want it and you want her to enjoy it.  For her she can do with out it.  This could be for several reasons.  Maybe she doesn’t enjoy it as much as she did, maybe you are not pleasing her the way she would like or she could be dealing with feminine issues that she doesn’t want to discuss with you.  You have to make it safe enough for her to talk to you and tell you what she needs, if you can’t it will continue to a game of tug of war.  What’s happening with the communication??  For a lot of women as they get older they tend to desire sex less. And unlike men for women if they don’t have sex as often they don’t miss it as much.  This is the reason Alura for women were created.  For couples whose relationship has become routine, this can make sex a sore topic because it is boring & uneventful.  Because there isn’t any enjoyment here the more you discuss it the more you just make matter worse. The goal is to have fun and remember you are both in the relationship together.  What effect one effect the other.

If your woman isn’t having sex regularly she isn’t thinking about it anymore. Women need regular stimulation in order for them to stay interested. Unlike men, whose desire increases over time when they don’t have sex, for women the desire decreases. Along with the decrease in desire there is a tendency for her to take longer to get aroused and become lubricated. The last thing you want to do is penetrate her when she isn’t wet because not only is that painful for her but you can also damage the sensitive lining of her vagina.

Here is a plan you can follow that will bring sex, and arousal, to the front of her mind.

• Spend a few days romancing her. Call her during the day just to say hi. Send her a couple of cards or emails letting her know you are thinking of her. Pull her close when it feels natural and just hold her and kiss her without sexual advances.
• When the time is right things will start to happen all by themselves. If that doesn’t work after a few days expand your efforts to include setting the stage for her to relax into the idea of sex. Think about what relaxes her. If it is a hot bath, suggest to her you will draw the water and wash her back. Light a candle at the tub. Maybe she likes massage. Offer to do that. Find the thing that will make her feel pampered and coax her into relaxing.
• Things should be ready to heat up by now so you also need to relax into it and focus on making sure she reaches maximum arousal. You should already be aware of the places she likes to be touched and kissed so begin there. Take your time. She will warm up in degrees, not all at once. Take your cue from her. When she is ready she will let you know by coaxing you into position, or asking you in her special way.

You will be surprised at your results using this process but also remember: the longer she has been without it, the more effort will be required on your part.

If you find you are only able to take her so far and not get to intercourse you should definitely try Alura. For years men have told me what amazing results they’ve had including Alura as part of their foreplay. When you apply Alura to the clitoral region it stimulates her to arousal, and it also increases her natural moisture flow so she desires you and is also ready for you, all at the same time. Alura comes in convenient Pillow Packs so the spontaneous moments stay spontaneous.

And for you men and ladies who are already enjoying regular sex Alura can take even that to new heights of arousal and satisfaction. So whenever you want to turn up the heat, think Alura.