The 10 Hottest Questions from Ricky Smileys Listenters

1. Topic: Premature Ejaculation

Question: I have been dating a guy for over two years. Throughout this time, he always comes too quickly. I want to know what we need to do to slow him down, because no matter if there is foreplay, or no foreplay, once we start having sex, he is going to come within minutes. So in the end I get nothing out of sex with him unless we have oral sex first. So please help us.

Answer:

Please understand that where they are is good, and know it can get better than that. What one person sees as a problem another person might see as a good thing because there are some women who want their man to hurry up. In this case your man simply has an untrained nervous system. The best thing you can do is have some fun with him and both of you will benefit. With the video “For Her Eyes Only” you can learn how to train him to last longer. You will be able to control when he ejaculates. You may say that you’ve tried everything however what I show you are step by step how to master this technique.

2. Topic: Painful Sex at 16

Question: Okay, like I know I’m not supposed to be having sex at 16, but I’ve been with this guy for like almost three years and everything’s going great in our relationship. The first time we tried having sex it really hurt me. He said I was so tight because it was my first time, but due to the pain I just told him to stop. Recently we tried again and the same thing happened. Is it because I’m so tight? He is thick and he was saying that it wouldn’t fit. So I’m wondering how many more times do I have to try until it breaks? Or if there is something wrong with me. I just want the whole virginity thing to go away because the pain isn’t working for me.

Answer:

I appreciate the fact that you reached out to me for an answer. I am saddened that there is no one in your life that you can have this conversation with. Parents should take the time to discuss sex with their kids long before they start trying to have it.  Personally I feel you are too young to be having sex, so I’m sorry, I can’t answer this question.  Please find an adult, someone you trust and respect to have this conversation.

3. Topic: Increase Penis Size 1 – 3 inches

Question: When you were on the Rickey Smiley Morning Show. Did I hear you say that you can make your erection longer by one to two inches by stimulation through the anal area? If this is so please explain

Answer:

Yes, I talked about one of the techniques that are in the video “For Her Eyes Only”.  With this technique we demonstrate how to stimulate the area between the anus and the scrotum, the perineum, to the degree that it causes the penis to extend 1-3 inches longer then normal.

4.  Topic: Men and Ejaculations

Question: My husband has started to ejaculate himself about twice every morning while holding something of mine or watching a sex video. He has trouble ejaculating when we are having sex unless he does it manually himself. What can I do to get him back on track so that he ejaculates while we have sex together? I like the old way we used to do it. I could always tell when he was going to come. Now we can go on and on and he can’t do it any more. He says it does not bother him, but I know it does. We have even tried Viagra to help.  Please help us. Has he done this too much and now he can’t do it without doing it that way? We have been married 30 years in November 2009 and our sex life is better now than in the past. Do you have any oral sex tips that will help this?  Thank you!

Answer:

It sounds like both you and your husband have a very healthy appetite for sex.  Sex is not just physical, it’s mental as well. Whatever the fantasy that turns both of you on can be used to get you aroused and even to have orgasms. Find out what it is that turns your husband on.  What you can do is create new fantasies for your husband. I suggest taking your husband on a sensual and romantic date where you are totally at cause and he is totally at the affect, meaning he doesn’t have to do anything.    What you do on the date is up to you depending on his fantasy, have some fun.  See how aroused you can get him.  By taking matters into your own hands you will give him something else to be excited about.  The main focus of the date is to get information and to put this information to work.  See “For Her Eyes Only”

5. Topic: Orgasm

Question: When a woman has an orgasm what exactly should she feel? How do you make it last?

Answer:

An orgasm is a series of continuous contractions (pleasurable feeling throughout your body and mainly in the genital area) starting with the first contraction and continuing until you are no longer feeling these pleasurable sensations. By learning and understanding your body you can not only have them last longer, however you can intensify them as well.  In my video “For His Eyes Only” I show you how to intensify each of these contracts so that they feel similar to the big one.  When most people think of an orgasm they think of it from a male perspective, which is harder, harder, faster, faster follower by the ejaculation at the end.  This is not an orgasm and if it were most women wouldn’t have one.

See “The One Hour Orgasm”

6. Topic: Sex after child birth

Question: My wife and I had a son 8 months ago and she’s not felling sexually active with me. What am I doing wrong before I lose her

Answer:

It’s hard to understand what a woman goes through when giving birth because you have never been through it.  During a woman’s pregnancy the baby alters a woman emotional and physical state and takes a major of her nutrients for itself. Your son took over his wife body for 10 months and now she has to get back adjusted to her own body.  Her clothes don’t fit right and her body sure doesn’t look like it did.  Chances are she is also feeling very unattractive.  My suggestion is to do things that are non sexual to make her happy and continue to tell her how much you love her and how beautiful he is.  Once you have done these things that here are steps to bring arousal back to the front of her mind. See: “Bring Arousal to the Front of Her Mind”

7. Topic: Sweets & Yeast Infections

Question: If candy is inserted in the vaginal will it cause a yeast infection?

Answer:

Good for you!  It’s great you want to spice up your love life and add a little flavor!  However, I wouldn’t put anything down there that isn’t meant to be down there.  If you want to add flavor why not try flavored lubricants.  This way you can heighten the arousal and add flavor. See I’m Flavored & Natural Lubricants

However I prefer natural lubricates over flavored because some flavored lubricates can be sticky and not provide proper lubrication.

8.  Topic: Orgasm

Question: I am a 31 year old woman who has never achieved an orgasm. What is wrong with me?

Answer:

There is nothing wrong with you and the good news is that you have something wonderful to look forward to.  Only 1 out of 3 women can have orgasms through intercourse.  The others need manual stimulation, oral stimulation or they just aren’t having them at all.  Our views about sex can dramatically impact our sex life.  Because of our views on sex, for some women they don’t take the time to learn what pleases them.  We tend to want to leave it all to our partner.  However, it is our responsibility to ourselves to make sure we are sexually fur filled. See answer # 5.

9. Topic: Cheating

Question: My husband cheated on me. I asked him why and he told me it had nothing to do with me. I don’t understand, I said are you happy with me? He said yes very happy. If he is so happy then why did cheat?

Answer:

When a couple is in a relationship and one of them has an affair it can be the hardest thing to get over.  When you have a relationship and the two do not cheat on each other and one steps out usually both people are at fault. The reason I said this is that the other person couldn’t communicate their wants and needs to their partner in a way to have them want to give it to them and the other person did have enough attention on their partner to know what they were starving for.  Now I am not talking about a man who cheats and cheats all the time.  I am talking about the people who want to be faithful to their mate.  Now I know what they did was wrong and I am not condoning this.  We weren’t taught growing up what to do after the happily ever after and unless we take personal action to learn or we had great role models we just don’t have a clue.  This is why I think the information I offer is so important, I teach you how to communicate effectively and have the most fun possible in a relationships.

Here are my “5 Tips to Affair Proof Your Relationship”

1.         You keep your appecence up

A lot of couples feel that once they are married they don’t have to continue to do the things that attracted their mate in the beginning

2.         You keep both of your best interest in mind.

It’s important to remember that you are on the same team.  You shouldn’t complain to anyone else about how terrible your partner is, after all you chose him.  Remember only to discuss your problem with someone who you both respect and who you feel can make a difference for example for pastor or a marriage counselor.

3.         You make your relationship a priority

This one of the main reason couples stray because they are not getting the attention and admiration from their mate.  We usually have the excuse we don’t have time.  Well if you don’t make your relationship a priority someone else will.

4.         You don’t do things to intentionally hold each other back.

It important in a relationship to have common goals and to know what these goals are.  When one person feels unappreciated they tend to sabotage what you both are trying to achieve.

5.         You continue to try new and different thing to improve your sex life. In my videos I teach couple how to have the most fun possible and how to make it last for a long as they would like to.  Any improvement is good.

10.  Topic: Little Sex/ No Sex in Marriage

Question: My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. We dated for 2 yrs before marriage. During our courtship, we had a very health sex life. However, of late my wife does not want to have sex at all. Most of the time we have to quarrel over it. Most of the time she just does it as a duty without showing any affection. This makes me feel like I am having sex with a prostitute. We have tried to talk about it back she is very uncommunicative. She does not want to talk about it. She instead blames me for being too over sexed. This has led me to stray a little bit to satisfy my ego. I have reached a point where I think the best thing is to end the marriage. I am 41 and she is 36 and we have a 4yr daughter.

Answer:

For you sex is a very important part of your life.  You want it and you want her to enjoy it.  For her she can do with out it.  This could be for several reasons.  Maybe she doesn’t enjoy it as much as she did, maybe you are not pleasing her the way she would like or she could be dealing with feminine issues that she doesn’t want to discuss with you.  You have to make it safe enough for her to talk to you and tell you what she needs, if you can’t it will continue to a game of tug of war.  What’s happening with the communication??  For a lot of women as they get older they tend to desire sex less. And unlike men for women if they don’t have sex as often they don’t miss it as much.  This is the reason Alura for women were created.  For couples whose relationship has become routine, this can make sex a sore topic because it is boring & uneventful.  Because there isn’t any enjoyment here the more you discuss it the more you just make matter worse. The goal is to have fun and remember you are both in the relationship together.  What effect one effect the other.