To those of you who have used the Venus Butterfly Technique from the book “The One Hour Orgasm” you know it is best described as sex for the soul. It is all about being in the moment, tender, trusting, intimate, slow, passionate, intense - did I say slow, like in savoring a great gourmet meal? Exactly!
Ladies, one of the things that can inhibit not only your enjoyment of the Venus Butterfly Technique, but your enjoyment of sex in general, is a poor self image of your body. We talked about this recently on Cathy Holloway Hill’s show “Living by Design,” on Blog Talk Radio and we offered the Five A’s To A High Sex Esteem. So, here they are, and you can get more detail, along with a good dose of conversation at the link above.
1. Attention - You get whatever you focus on so if your attention is on what you don’t like about yourself, you get that. If your attention is on what you like about yourself then you get that. If you have a flower garden and you water the weeds you end up getting more weeds than flowers.
2. Acknowledge and Approve – The first step is to acknowledge the actions your lover does that already feel good. Second, make an easy request of him that will increase your pleasure such as, “Would you go a little slower,” or, “Rub a little softer” (or harder), or, “Come up a little higher,” (down a little lower), or, “Move your finger to the left,” (to the right). Simple requests furnish him with the information he needs to be able to give you exactly what pleases you the most. The third step is to give him good feedback. “That is even better,” or, “That is wonderful,” and, “Oh, that is great!” Repeat this communication cycle as many times as it continues to be productive and fun.
3. Ask – You have to have a big enough ASK. Thou shall receive but he can’t read your mind. It’s also all about the way you ask. Use a sensual voice.
4. Accepting – You are who you are. To deny yourself is to deny your being. You can’t expect someone else to accept you if you don’t accept yourself. So what thoughts did you buy into that caused you to not accept you?
5. Attitude – It’s not your wrinkles, or flab, or cellulite, it’s your attitude about your wrinkles, flab or cellulite that is unattractive. If you feel you deserve pleasure and you truly want to enjoy yourself, then the man in your life who really loves you is more than happy to be the tool of your pleasure. He loves to play the instrument and the sounds that come from it – your oohs and ahhs are extremely arousing to him.
