I’ve never really felt there was any good reason to lie to myself. Sure, having rose-colored glasses does make the world look rosy, but only until you take them off. And you always have to take them off.
The same is true with relationships. At the early stages of our love affairs the rose colored glasses are on and we are seeing only what we want to see, only in the light we want to see it in. Then, later, maybe after a few years, things begin to look differently. We notice she has an annoying way of always asking two questions at one time, and he always leaves the kitchen cabinet doors open. We always knew she asked two questions at once, but it used to be cute. We always knew he left the kitchen cabinet doors open, but that was only because he was preoccupied trying to keep up with his meteoric rise in the corporate world.
So, what happens after the happily ever after? Well, if you are smart, you didn’t wait until then to really start making your relationship important. Instead you rose every day and you kept those thoughts of your lover just like those ones you had when you first met. Remember how you used to be on pins and needles while waiting to be together? Remember how your thoughts were always on each other? Remember how you daydreamed little pictures of the future with the two of you in romantic bliss?
Those thoughts were the things that were creating and recreating your relationship over and over. Your life flows to where your attention is, so use your thoughts and actions to make sure happily ever after stays happily ever after.
