In a previous post I offered some advice about the signs to look for that will let you know you are ready for a relationship. Those centered on the idea that you have to take responsibility for your life, and love life. In a way these were the points that showed you were ready to receive.
Being ready for a relationship, however, also means you are ready to give. Many dating and relationship problems stem from too much of a focus on “me.” Relationships by their very nature depend upon fulfilling the needs of both people. If they don’t, then one, or both people miss out on the fullness that comes when two people who are ready for a relationship get together. These “selfish” relationships eventually cease to exist, or they just exist as empty shells.
Whether you are dating, trying to figure out your relationship problems, or you are beginning to look for a new relationship, these next signs will definitely get you pointed in the right direction.
- 1. You are able to communicate effectively with others to resolve issues without trying to establish blame and without loosing your cool.
- 2. You are willing to make time for the relationship. While other aspects of your life like work and hobbies are important, you also recognize that it’s your relationship that adds greater dimension to all of those things.
- 3. You are willing and able to commit to one person, and you want to help them to fulfill their desires.
- 4. You are willing to work at the relationship so the two of you continue to grow together. This includes being willing to spend time and energy on things that the two of you have in common. Working on this aspects takes you also through the process of working on those things about yourself that get in the way of your relationship with someone else. There is much more available about this in the Pillow Talk seminars.
- 5. You are willing to treat your mate the way you would want to be treated.
Regardless of your past relationship problems, and whether you are dating, or thinking about it, these signs offer a set of guideposts so you can know when you are ready for a relationship.
