Part 1
We have interesting ways of deluding ourselves, especially when it comes to relationships. For people who are just leaving a relationship, and for those who are already in the dating game, the delusion is thinking they are actually ready for a relationship.
Sometimes people assume that changing their relationship will eliminate their relationship problems, when in fact the problems are often created by themselves. Others may assume they are ready for a relationship simply because they have had so much experience with them. However, if the experience is based on failed relationships then you have to wonder just how valuable it is. So, what are the signs you are ready for a relationship?
The first five signs that you are ready for a relationship center on accepting personal responsibilities – being ready to receive. Keep in mind that I am assuming you are looking for a long-term relationship that is valuable to both parties.
- 1. You are financially stable and are not looking for someone to share your financial responsibilities. Relationships have always been about money to a certain extent, but when it tops the list the resulting relationship can end up being needy and manipulative.
- 2. You are clear on what your issues are, and you are working on them. This is a very deep topic and you can get a good understanding of it from my Choosing A Relationship video, available in the Pillow Talk seminar series.
- 3. You don’t blame anyone for your past mistakes and disappointments. You hold yourself accountable and accept the content of your life.
- 4. You set boundaries and value your “me” time. You aren’t looking for a relationship simply because you don’t like to be alone.
- 5. You are clear about the kind of relationship you want, and you know where you will compromise, and where you won’t. You are unwilling to just “settle for” while you wait for the true Mr. or Miss. Right.
In my next post I will cover the next 5 signs of being ready for a relationship. These signs are based upon your willingness to give.
