The Biggest Myths: He Doesn’t Listen – I Can’t Understand Her

If you take the time to watch this short video you will recognize the dynamics that are going on here. Whether you are man or woman you know this goes on and you have probably been sitting in one of their chairs at one time or another. The classic complaint of men about women is that they can’t be understood. The classic complaint about men by women is that they don’t listen.

In both cases nothing could be further from the truth. Women are understood all the time. And men do listen. The key to better communication between them is just a matter of recognizing some basic differences and then using the appropriate communication technique.

Women need to understand that men can only do one thing at a time. When a man puts his attention on something it is on that one thing only. While you may be a master at multi-tasking chances are your man isn’t. If you get him going in one direction you need to let him finish what he’s doing before changing the direction. You need to also make sure you have his attention before saying or doing that important thing you want him to be aware of.

Believe it or not if your man loves you he wants to succeed with you. He wants to win. And while you may want to keep him in doubt by withholding encouragement you are only hurting yourself in the long run. As soon as you criticize or put him down he doesn’t hear anything after that and then there’s a good chance that if that goes on long enough he’ll begin looking for an exit from the relationship.

Men need to understand that anything they put their attention on can be understood and that applies to understanding women too. So you men need to first of all realize that your ladies are starved for attention and sensual pleasure. Then, when she has your attention you need to focus on her and her message as intently as you focus on today’s stock market news or the local sports scores. If you can learn to look at her talking to you as the most important thing that will happen to you that day you will be amazed at how easy she is to understand.

We speak these relationship myths so much that we come to believe they are fact. Now you know they can only be fact if you let them.